Motherhood After Dark

Since I Became a Mother


Hi Friends,
If you are a parent then you know that it is no easy feat. If you are a mother then you will understand even more of what a beautiful challenge it can be. The challenges that arise on a daily basis can bring about feelings of excitement, nervousness, and anxiety. In today’s blog post, I am highlighting five things I have learned since I became a mother. I decided to incorporate our most recent photo shoot documenting Charlotte’s eight month milestone with the theme ‘Eight Months In – Eight Months Out’

1 | WHAT A TIME TO BE A MOTHER

Gretchen Rubin says it best, ‘The days are long, but the years are short’. I can still remember my fast-paced waddle as I rushed to get things together for Charlotte’s arrival and now, she is a little over eight months old. Charlotte crawls like she’s on a mission, walks confidently with assistance and gets into any and everything. I have cherished every single moment I have with her, it is never taken for granted. I’m thankful to have a year of maternity leave that allows me to focus on her, my role as a mother and our home.

2 | WALK A MILE IN A MOTHER’S SHOES

I respect my mother 10x more than I already do. I mean, how did my parents do it with four children? If my love for children and my desire to have a big family didn’t run so deep, I would stop right here. You don’t realize how much work it is to be a parent, specifically, what being a mother entails, until you’re in it for yourself.

3 | THERE IS NO PATIENCE LIKE THAT OF A MOTHER

I have learned to be more patient with my husband. I realized very quickly that if I got into the habit of speaking with a sharp tongue and in a sharp tone with my husband, that my daughter would eventually grow to wonder if one, I really loved her father and two, to not have any respect for him. Those are two things (out of many others of course) that I do not want in our household. For me, I want to be a great mother by first being a great wife. 

4 | MOTHERS SHOULD SLEEP WHEN THE BABY SLEEPS

This concept is one that makes me rolls my eyes every so often. If I don’t make the time to get things done, it won’t get done. However, even with that being said, I have learned the importance of enjoying down time. Granted, I still get household chores done most of the time while our munchkin sleeps but I am more intentional about rest. If I’m tired, I don’t put up as big of a fight as I once did and I treat myself to a nap. Simply because mothers need good quality sleep too!

5 | TO BE OR NOT TO BE AN INTENTIONAL MOTHER

I’ve learned to be intentional in everything that I do. From accepting that our daughter is slow-to-warm up (complete opposite of my personality) and ensuring that people respect her space and level of comfort to enrolling her in swimming lessons before she was at the minimum six month old age requirement, being intentional is a choice that I have made when it comes to my role of being a mother and I take it seriously.

Just before wrap up, I would like to thank our milestone photographer, Jessica Blaine Smith, for always being such a joy to work with and my husband for ensuring that I was able to get this specific venue and room to recreate our maternity photo session.

Xx See you next Tuesday!

PS: Feel free to check out our lovely photographer’s website (http://www.jbsmithphotography.com) to see more of her work and give her a follow on Instagram @jbsmith.