A couple of weeks ago, I shared our engagement journey with you and so, it is only right to follow up with a highlight reel of our wedding day, better known as the start of The Reid Experience so, let’s jump right into it ….As any engaged/married couple may know, planning for a wedding can be extremely stressful. Since I’m writing this while my handsome other half sleeps, I can’t ask him to rate on a scale of 1-10 how stressful our wedding planning was for him but I know for me, it wasn’t as high on the scale (with 10 being extremely stressful) as it could’ve been. Although, we had a less-than-ideal engagement journey, it had taught us a number of things that stuck with us as we planned for our wedding day. Because I know you have more important things to do, I’ll highlight only THREE:
1| Marriage > Wedding Day
We had been separated once and we didn’t want that to happen again. We decided to put more effort into ensuring that our foundation was a firm one because we wanted to ‘do’ life together until ‘death do us part’.
2| Our Wedding Was Not A Show.
By determining this for ourselves, our guest list dropped significantly from around 300ish to 100. I will be brutally honest and say that I struggled with the numbers on my end for awhile but I got over it we moved forward. In the end, we had a guest count of approximately 160 which was surprising because we decided to marry on a Tuesday. I remember saying several times, “No, it was not an error on the invitation. Yes, we’re really going to get married on a Tuesday”. For those who did not understand, Keith revealed the reason during our “Thank-You” towards the end of the cocktail reception. For those who weren’t able to make it, we assured them that their prayers, love, and well-wishes were more than enough!
3|Keep It Simple But Details Still Matter
(A) We focused on having a ceremony that was filled with substance such as scripture, songs, prayer, and a sermon in addition to our (B) We had a personalized wooden box made (inspired by my lovely friend,L, who had one at her own wedding the year before) that held our wedding cards and we have held onto every single one up to this day. We promised ourselves that we would read through them every year on our wedding anniversary.(C) Our guest book to be signed had pre-filled with photos of us in our dating and engagement seasons and we shared some of our thoughts in there too!
(D) We wanted to feed our guests in an intimate cocktail-style reception setting so we had our reception in the fellowship hall (aka church basement) immediately after the ceremony. Our guests were fed and thoroughly entertained and thus, the goal of our reception was achieved.
Our wedding day did not have all the individuals who we would’ve loved to have there and it wasn’t super fancy soirée. With that being said, we are at peace with how we chose to have our day because it was filled with all of the elements that mattered most to us. We were shown so much love and support on that day and our hearts are still full. For this alone, we are eternally thankful to God and to our tribe.
PC: Our incredible milestone photographer – Jessica Blaine Smith