Motherhood After Dark

Balance of the Big Three: Marriage, Motherhood & Work

mom and daughter at the pumpkin patch
Mom & Daughter at Pumpkin Patch

Happy Tuesday One and All,

I’m back with another Tuesday tale. Surely, I thought that this post was going to be about how I had an epiphany and boom, I am now a successful SAHM (Stay At Home Mom) but this post is definitely not that! I’m still here and I’m still working BUT things have been moving and shifting and so, instead of writing this with frustrated tears streaming down my face, I am writing with a smile of gratefulness.

Dad & Daughter on Wagon Ride
Dad & Daughter enjoying a wagon ride.

A Necessary Change

First things first, I am no longer working with a status of ‘part-time’ overnights but rather I have acquired a ‘full-time’ status and I work in the evenings. If you’ve ever worked overnights and hated it and had the opportunity to switch to more ‘humanely’ hours then you will truly understand my joy. Granted, I had started to get accustomed to the overnights and had made peace with the position after about two weeks into the role. I consoled myself with mantras of ‘things will get better’ and that’s what got me through 99.9% of my shifts and the two nights that I was actually home at night where Charlotte would proceed to cry for the majority of the night – thus resulting in very little sleep. I say all of that to say that now I am a full-timer and I will work evenings, hip hip HOORAY!

Secondly, the Hubster has moved into an overnight role that we believe will be a step in the right direction for now and for long term career goals. I am thankful that he never minded working overnights. He saw the opportunity, he spoke up and it was granted to him. It also helps that in the past week there was a wage increase. A little will go a long way for our family of three.

Thirdly, to be a mother, wife, and employee requires an intentional attitude 24/7. I have always said I am trying to achieve a balance but I have let go of that idea slowly over time. The reality is that some days will be better than others and that’s okay. Rome was not built in a day and there is no expectation of me from anyone (including myself) to be the master of all of my life’s moving parts. Everyday presents a new challenge but I am learning to take each day for what it comes and not to work myself up about the challenges of the following day because it does not bring me any form of peace so I need not do it.

Daughter playing at the pumpkin patch
Charlotte playing at the pumpkin patch

In Conclusion

Last but not least, I’m just trying to do the best I can with what we have available to us. We are grateful for the opportunities that are available and we do not take them for granted. Most days, I am exhausted and when I can truly rest, I do. In the mean time, I will continue to work hard to do right by my sweet loves in the roles that I occupy. Even with all of that being said, I must also remind myself (and you) that you can do anything but not everything and that’s perfectly fine.

Xx See You Next Week!

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