Marriage

Our Love Languages—Rediscovered

Young black couple on a photoshoot during the fall season in Toronto

When the Hubs & I met, I had the brilliant idea of introducing him to Dr. Gary Chapman’s Five Love Languages concept turned book. I had learned the importance of being in tune with what my primary love language was and wanted to know what his was as well. If you don’t know anything about the Five Love Languages – stop here and check it out then return.

‘From what I can remember, we ranked very high for quality time and so we made sure to play to our strength’

From what I can remember, we ranked very high for quality time and so we made sure to play to our strength. When I moved back home from being away for school in Ottawa, we planned date night once a month and we would surprise each other every single time. The experience of getting ready, wondering where we would go when it was his turn to plan was nothing short of amazing.

Fast forward to nearly 3.5 years of marriage and two young children later, I thought that we ought to do the love languages test again and see where we stand.

Young black couple on a photoshoot during the fall season in Toronto

Fast forward to nearly 3.5 years of marriage and two young children later, I thought that we ought to do the love languages test again and see where we stand. I was certain that our love languages had changed and I was absolutely right. My primary love language turned out to be ‘Acts of Service’ and Keith’s was primarily ‘Words of Affirmation’.

I feel most loved when Keith helps me out with even the most mundane tasks in our home and does so with a positive attitude. Keith feels most loved when I’m not nagging him and doing more loving on him not just physically but emotionally. When we are both choosing to communicate in the love language that the other understands best, we THRIVE and baby, it feels good to thrive in this marital partnership.

We won’t always speak to each other in the way that the other understands best because well, sometimes there’s a number of factors at play. But at least, we know what our love languages are and we can make a conscious effort to do better with each and every encounter we have with one another.

Xx See you all next week!

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Young black couple on a photoshoot during the fall season in Toronto