Motherhood After Dark

Same, Same, but Different

***All photos (with exception of the final photo taken by Asma Ruh) been taken by the lovely Jessica Blaine Smith. Feel free to check our their work and services on Instagram @this_ruh & @jbsmith***

Afro-Caribean engaged couple kissing at sunrise

Hello Beautiful People!

Happy New Year/Happy New Decade! I wish for you and yours to have a beautiful and prosperous year ahead filled with an abundance of good health, genuine joy, wealth and everything in between. I know it’s been a little bit since I’ve last posted to the blog but I’m here now and I ask that you forgive me for my unannounced hiatus (inserts nervous laugh here). Without further ado, let’s jump into the first blog post of 2020, shall we?

‘I am convinced that I am in this specific season of motherhood where I am learning to grow in a way that hasn’t been required of me before’

Loves, I am convinced that I am in this specific season of motherhood where I am learning to grow in a way that hasn’t been required of me before. If you aren’t a parent yet and you’re reading this then do know that you’re in for a treat if/when you decide to embark upon this journey. For those who are already here, you know that well, life is the same in many ways (in terms of busyness and responsibilities) but also very different.

‘I’m here like wow …. we really went ahead and changed up our lives didn’t we?! Sometimes, I really REALLY miss it’

Afro-Caribean couple climbing on rocks at sunrise

Every now and again, I find myself reminiscing about the life I lived prior to being a wife and a mother. Dating my now husband was a lot of fun (marriage is even more fun but in a more mature way) and we literally did many of the things we wanted whenever we wanted to do them. And I mean, as we should because it was only us two anyway! Now we have children and I’m here like wow …. we really went ahead and changed up our lives didn’t we?! Sometimes, I really REALLY miss it – there, I said it.

‘…it’s okay to feel all of your feelings – including mourning the loss of the life you once lived prior to having any babies…’

Afro-Caribbean Canadian young pregnant mother at sunrise

With the entire Reid household being sick over the holidays, I couldn’t help but think back to my carefree university days —that feel like a lifetime ago if I’m being brutally honest. In the words of a fellow mama of Instagram whom I follow as of late, it’s okay to feel all of your feelings – including mourning the loss of the life you once lived prior to having any babies and even the life you led once you added one (if you have more than one). I enjoyed life prior to marriage, prior to becoming a first and second time mom and I really enjoy it now, where my hands are full but my heart is even fuller.

Afro-Caribbean Canadian pregnant mother with her toddler daughter touching her belly
Young Afro-Caribbean Canadian family in the fall foilage

Things look different because they are – it just is what it is. But this is the life I once dreamed of having and I really wouldn’t want to have it any other way. The Baby Reid Experience wont last forever so, in the mean time, I will enjoy everything it has to offer!

Xx See you all next week!

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PS: Don’t forget to follow my family & I on Instagram @hersocialgrooveandbaby to see snippets of our almost daily shenanigans.